A Heavy End to an Otherwise Wonderful Christmas

This past Christmas was an amazing time with my 24 member family. We laughed, played games, ate, and just really enjoyed being in each other's company. On the last night we were all together (December 27th) we all headed to my sister's house in Broadway for a family picture and dinner. After the picture I went upstairs to feed Raleigh. My sister, Dawn, came in and said Lynley had an announcement to make. Normally that means a pregnancy, but seeing as my sister was crying I knew that wasn't it something good.

By the time I got out in to the living room everyone was gathered around listening to my sister, Lynley, with my brother-in-law, Dan, right beside her. His hand was on her back and he was looking down. I heard things like "surgery," "lump," and "doctors." For a second I didn't comprehend what was going on. Was it her? Where was the lump? What did it mean?

Taken after "the announcement."

They still look good, even with puffy eyes!

I don't really need to give all the details here, but Dan discovered a lump during yoga, of all things, around December 10th and went to the doctor right away. They soon were doing surgery to remove swollen lymph nodes in his neck. (My brother, Cameron, noticed the scar and asked Dan about it, somewhat prompting Lynley and Dan to share with the family what was going on.) By this point there had already been lots of tests, scans, and appointments. When Lynley was done talking I think everyone was stunned and in tears and then.......and then we all got up and hugged them, hugged each other. Just long, meaningful hugs. Some of us prayed for them. It was a very heavy moment. So very different from different from the same day last year when we announced to my family that we were expecting Raleigh.

The next day Lynley and Dan headed back to PA for a late afternoon doctor's appointment. They called while the rest of us were having dinner and told us that the doctors had confirmed what we were all fearing - cancer. Dan was diagnosed with Stage 2 Hodgkins Lymphoma. It was so surreal because Dan is only 30 and he and Lynley are hand's down the healthiest people we know. Thankfully since Dan is a pre-med student at Penn State he has been getting the royal treatment! So we are so happy about that.

It still seems so surreal. So unfair that Dan has to go through this. I can't tell you how my heart aches for them. As of now Dan has done 4 of his 8 chemo treatments. He's dealt with "fire tongue," fatigue, nausea, and just recently hair loss. And in May he'll do 2-3 weeks of radiation. Though his prognosis is extremely good he (and Lynley) still weigh heavy on our hearts and our minds throughout the day. So if you could please, please remember to pray for them I know they would appreciate it. And if you want to follow along on their journey to kick cancer Dan's Caring Bridge website is: http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/teamlapp .

We look forward to the day he is cancer free....and we know that will be soon!